I'm Coming Out!!

I’m Coming Out!!!!

Are you having trouble communicating your sexual orientation to your friends and family? Do you feel as if you will be judged or treated differently? All of these feelings are normal when it comes to situations like this, but there are ways in which you can make it easier!

1. Identify your reason for coming out.

Often people in the LGBT+ community feel pressured into coming out. Some feel that they are not being genuine or not their true self by not disclosing their sexuality. This is not true. No one should ever make you feel pressured to do anything that you are not comfortable doing. Share your sexual orientation with others only if you feel it is the right time for you. Will “coming out” better your life? What are the potential positive and negative consequences of telling others about your sexuality? Wait until you feel is the right time and circumstance for you!

2. Be cautious of who you disclose your sexual orientation to.

While it is important that you come to terms with your sexuality, not everyone will be happy for you. There are people who may not agree with your sexual orientation or maybe even just you as a person. Those kinds of people should not be in your inner circle of trust. Their intentions can be cruel thus leading to more headache and pain that is unwarranted. If those individuals find out on their own then that is their problem, your sexuality is on a “need to know” basis and they do not need to know. 

3. Only share the details you are comfortable sharing.

Only reveal as much as you want. What goes on within your sexuality and sexual boundaries is your personal business. No one’s opinion but your own matters when it comes to YOUR life. 

4. You are not alone during this journey and there is always someone to talk to. 

The Center for Health Advocacy and Wellness welcomes every one, so come visit us if there are any problems or you want more suggestions on your “coming out” experience. You can make an appointment to talk to someone about your sexual orientation by calling 850-644-8871. You can also get involved in Pride Student Union. 

5. Look at the bright side!

Coming out to family and friends is not always bad. There are many positive outcomes that can occur because of it. For instance, you now have the ability to build moral support full of people that value and love you as a person. Because you made those around you aware, they now have the knowledge and incentive to love every aspect of you! Also, you now have the power to open the door for powerful discussions in regards to sexuality in your household. Although it is not your responsibility, you have the option of educating those around you as well as others in your family that may be going through similar situations with their sexuality. Lastly, you may feel like a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. 

In the end, sexuality is personal. You get to decide when and how much to tell others.